Heroes and role models are people who were always hard for me to identify. This is something that dawned on me when I tried to explain the idea of heroes to a three-year-old little girl who was examining their cartoon-like images printed on a pool swimmy ring.
I’ve always admired bold actions. If those actions are motivated by passion, awesome. Holding someone up and saying, this is a person that I want to be like, has always faded away and melded into to create my own vision for myself. I guess that’s why most people who’ve met me would agree; I’m not like anyone they’ve ever met before.
Feeling different can be lonely to the depths of where you’d never thought loneliness could delve down into before.
These are the times when I, when we, and when our children need heroes to model. We need someone to entice us to lift up our heads and say, “YES! That does inspire me!”
Stan Lee has created many superheroes for us to learn from. So have sports broadcasters, television producers and experts in every field of study imaginable. I take comfort in the words of great artists, in the brilliant genius of nature, and in witnessing the goose-bumpingly power of a startlingly simple wisdom when it has been stripped of all it’s flim-flamery. (Or just some clever flip-floppery. That inspires me too.)
Teaching our children to relish learning something new; Teaching them that it’s okay to fail and to face their failures with a sense of humor and a goal that is undiminished is something that I believe is so important.
Especially when our culture dive-bombs us with nothing but stories of unimaginable success, with little to no mention of the pitfalls along the way. When we turn on the TV at night, we see visions of multi-billionaires, expert golf pros and superstar singers. We celebrate their accomplishments but not their processes to achieve them. Are we creating heroes that are untouchable, unrelatable and unapproachable?
“We become what we celebrate.” -Matthew Kelly, author Building Better Families
Who do you celebrate and admire? Are the people you’re spending time with good role models for your children? What makes them so? Or why not? None of us is perfect. We all have flaws, we make mistakes, and we do undesirable things.
What Kelly is asking us in his book is for us to ask ourselves, “Is this person helping to make me the best version of myself?” If the answer is honestly, yes, then to me, they are a hero.