Adam’s new phrase of the week. He wants to do so many things by himself now and doesn’t want me to hover, ready to swoop in to help. So now, when I need to swoop, I have a longer distance to travel.
Stepping over myself to stay out of his way, I stretch and we both grow. Recognizing and honoring requests by even the youngest children is a fundamental way that I build confidence in our relationship together. Kids are forever doing what those in authority are telling them to do; albeit parents, teachers or others. If they linger and procrastinate, or outright refuse to do what they are asked to do, it is likely that they will be punished.
I like to turn the tables and do what my child asks of me once in a while too. I am by no means running myself around ragged obliging his every whim and desire. What I do however, is weigh his requests and grant them if they seem reasonable and worthwhile.
So yes, when my 2 1/2-year-old said, “No, Mom, you stay here”, I said, “Ok, honey” and I rested with my bruised ego right where he left me. There, I happened to find an Adirondack chair to lean back into beneath the bright autumn sun.
As I tried not to wonder what he was doing over there, I stayed over here and just a few moments later he walked by proudly, with his chest in the air. Acknowledging that it was time to move, I was reluctant to give up the warm spot that I had found, but did so willingly knowing that we were both carrying a bit of that sunshine with us because he went over there and I stayed over here.