When others see in our art what we intended it’s so reassuring and self-affirming. That’s why we go to museums and appreciate art. To see if an artist can twist our mind to see the world in the way they do, in a way that is new to us, is exciting.
We are expressing ourselves and communicating and being understood. We are being heard. Feeling heard is so powerful for anyone. We all just want to be heard.
Being 3-years-old and not feeling heard often go hand-in-hand. Finally acquiring enough of the language to tell your caregiver what you want and then being told “no, you can’t have it” has got to be such a constant source of frustration. We have to always keep that in the front of our minds when guiding our children’s behavior and their communication with us and the rest of the world.
I was so happy for Adam when he started drawing figures in the last
few months because now he gets to experience the joy of recognition that comes with unspoken communication.
It’s just at the right time too, because it so clearly contridicts the negative ways that he resorts to when he’s not feeling heard; like hitting and throwing.
Are there any ways that your children have found their voice? How do you express your own?